Dating a bad boy reddit 5 year gap for us. I somehow only end up dating bad boys 🤷 Narcissistic personality disorder. It’s not about being a smoking leather jacket wearing bad boy. also what if the person looking for a girl or a boy gets super desperate and goes for the wrong person Doesnt hold true. You already have all the tools you need. The best connection I’ve ever had and still have is with a bad boy. Yeah you might be right that a 16-19 year old age gap might not be huge as long as you treat her with respect and kindness which you probably would have given your final decision. Of course if that is your image of bad boys it makes sense to think an innocent, high-quality woman would never date them. Then, women like the egocentric confidence trip the bad boys have going BUT think they can CHANGE them into being sweet. I grew up in a lower socioeconomic area and wanted more. Plus you have to look at it from experience… cognitive maturity doesn’t equal good decision making or good judgment regarding their dealings with these boys, most of these mature girls are still driven by feelings. all women like bad boys Wrong. But goddamn- he is so fucking popular. bad boys are predictable --you know he isn't going to propose marriage, offer to take you on some fancy trip, ask for an exclusive relationship, or get fed up with your nonsense and leave. I always have to speak up and end things. If your senior son told you he wanted to date a freshman girl, you might balk and certainly forbid it, but you wouldn’t make the leap to pedophile. I was excited to be free of a relationship that I perceived had taken away the opportunity to ‘go wild’ in my 20s. I got pregnant. Mr. Friend. Nice guys come off like they really, really need to get the girl to be happy. It’s attractive because a woman doesn’t have to worry about how she acts or if she’s going to make him feel bad by saying or doing the wrong thing. The actual age difference in terms of numbers/years isn’t that bad, 3 years isn’t a huge age gap. I'm one of those guys and I'm not teally looking for someone so you have to find me. However, they made stupid decisions and the boy in the situation had a temper and would go off anytime someone made them out to be bad, so that’s mostly why nobody said anything. r/Crushes is a safe place for people to talk about their crushes and ask for advice. HOWEVER the difference in maturity, life knowledge and stages of development between a 14 yr old and 17 yr old are pretty significant. LGBT is still a popular term used to discuss gender and sexual minorities, but all GSRM are welcome beyond lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people who consent to participate in a safe space. 14 yr olds are children, they’ve only been at high school for a year or two. I agree with almost every point you made. Bad boys aren’t intimidated by other people because they figure they I was never into bad boys. If its a 14 dating 18 or 15 dating a 19/20 make sure theres no bad intentions, no sexual activity, and be very careful for the older person to not piss off the younger person in any way whatsoever or else he/she would risk legal trouble! Trust dude. I’ve met guys who look nice and are actually bad boys. I actually feel bad about it. Just warning you, men who are bad at boundaries with their family relationships can also have bad boundaries in their other relationships - like with a coworker who becomes an affair. As a Millennial woman, I've seen this stereotype portrayed the majority of my life. Personally, I'm 19 and would on date 16 year old that's really cool. You can strengthen your relationship with your daughter, spend more time with her, make sure she knows how much you love her. I know my 16 yr old was roasting one of his buddies for dating a girl in the 8th grade. One girl i got with who my friend was into since the beginning who we met at a bar would not stop talking shit behind my back and tbh i wasnt really into her because she had a terrible jealous attitude anyway and he eventually pulled her from me, married her, and they have a kid now. k. When every guy wants to date you it becomes exhausting. o girl might raise some brows, but on the whole there's nothing unusual about that. Shell want a good boy at the end of the day. their mother) do everything for them (cooking, cleaning, washing etc. I felt bad for them and had secondhand embarrassment too. Option A: A bad boy who smokes, drinks heavily, has no concrete plans in life, and is looking to date girls but isn't willing to settle down. Like she'd have to be super dope and mature for her age. I won't use his real name but I'll call him Steven. the amount of stuff i’ll see online on how you “shouldn’t date korean men” because they’re terrible people is insane. Actually most of my friends started dating their husbands in their 20's and were figuring school and job paths. I was dating a 20 year old college boy when I was 17. Also, good on you for being cautious and thinking about whether or not there's anything wrong with the idea itself. A bad boy or fuckboy is person who doesn’t respect women, but relies on them heavily. No definite geeky boys/bad boys stereotypes. The other story. this sub is for advice about specific dating situations not general debates. "Bad boys" are capable of treating women with respect and romanticism; simply because they portray a bad boy image doesn't mean they are beating their women at the end of the day. It makes zero sense. Yesterday we were talking and I said something flirtatious and she said that I always make her blush I'm such a bad boy, her bad boy. Also I have said this before, the attraction isn't about being "bad", the attraction is in being "exicitng". Ehhh more like probably. They know that their attraction for those types are unhealthy. 3) is it okay for a Reddit general dating sub to give advice to minors about dating and sexuality? Nope. they’ll say how korean men are a ‘red flag. That's just how things go, power dynamics and biology 101. Yeah it becomes the narrative of "women want bad boys" because it's easier to think that then the reality of "women just don't like me" so everyone else becomes a "bad boy" so you can retreat to Fort Morality. And if someone 19 or older dates an 18 year old, that is just as bad. We met through a mutual friend who went to high school with him and I knew him a few years before he went to college. Dunno how it is now, but 11 is about the age where boys and girls stopped hanging out totally separately, and the whole “cooties” thing started to die down. So younger girls THINK they like bad boys, when they just prefer more dominant men. The #1 subreddit for Brits and non-Brits to ask questions about life and culture in the United Kingdom. None of this means he's a bad guy, it's also entirely possible circumstances lead to the relationship blossoming (for example if you both worked the same job at a store or something), but it definitely is weird that a 25 year-old would hang out with an 18-year old, so if that's how you met, it's definitely a little weird. BTW, bad boy hates me now and besides, I feel it would be unethical to go back to him, even if I could, because my new guy is good and I would feel even shittier then I do now by posting this, feeling like I'm betraying him in some way. Make your problems everyone else's and if something goes wrong it's on someone else. Wear Tapout and Affliction t-shirts. There was some judgement. If you have any questions, please send the mods a message. i started dating my partner when i was 17 and they were 15, but i should clarify, it’s only a 1. o guy dating a 18 y. The women see this & take up with the “bad boys” - leaving the narcissists seething. I'm just going to say that even though dating in high school isn't a bad thing, not dating in high school isn't bad either. Whatever you do, I wouldn't start by calling women unwell. Bad boys in my area did not. It’s about being confident enough that normal blokes look at you and see a bad boy, when in reality you’re just a super confident dude. Every time we walk around campus together- we bump into maybe 3 or 4 of his many friends within 15 minutes of heading out the door. The whole "bad boy" phenomenon [just like the "bad girl" phenomenon] is a very minor portion of dating. I've looked at statutes in a few states and haven't ever seen one in which an 18 year old dating a 16 year old would be illegal. Bad boy seems obvious. true. ) or have become independent and take care of themselves. Anyhow, I have a beautiful 13 year old daughter, and I'm okay with her dating. Posted by u/Patient_Row_7255 - 230 votes and 193 comments A “bad boy” has self confidence and knows what he wants and goes for it. Where are the ones that look like bad boys but are nice? 10 votes, 27 comments. The problem is these statements don't seem to be false. I’ve met boys who look nice and are nice. He’s distant, doesn’t care about other people’s time, and won’t commit. If you are all the time nice and not playful, ironic, challenging or “bad” just for the fun of it you come off as boring. " The age gap isn’t bad, it’s just the fact your in different grades and going through different stages of life, which can affect a lot ! Example, 14 year old may enjoy going to the park or hanging at their parents house. Tattoos were ubiquitous. Women like bad boys because: bad boys never hold you accountable for anything, and don't expect much. Like i don’t mean this as in defending them, but people always do this stuff when a relationship with a korean man doesn’t work out. What it usually means is that women like dominance, and that usually happens to come from bad boys. He often comes up with lame excuses later, but somehow manages to make up for it JUST enough to get you to see him another time. But he is funny, confident, like Through my life , bad boys may get girls , but don’t keep them. I gotta say, he's a good guy. The best way to come across like the bad guy without actually being the bad guy is to be happy with your life, so that you really are OK whether or not you get the girl. So just letting a girl/boy into your life as a friend, was a new exploration, and got the label of “dating”, even though it really wasn’t. Who am I to judge? Nope can't lie. Popular is my current boyfriend. There also seem to have once been more "rough trade" guys who probably met the "bad boy" standard (Halston's longtime lover comes to mind), but that was This!! I remember dating these same 40+ year old guys when I was in my 20s. ’ I recently rewatched the iDate a Bad Boy episode, where a teenage "bad boy" steals Spencer's motorcycle and then begins dating Carly. We both have and do date other people. His personality isn’t dependent on other people approving of him. I just wanted a common thread to tie up the discussion on what bad boys do well, since it seems to come up super often. Authority was an obstacle, and never respected. 100% this. He starts telling me what a bad boy vibe I have going on. My teen is dating a “bad” boy. Be confrontational in every situation. I had kind of hoped she'd rub off on me, but instead I have rubbed off on her. It is a big age gap. He wants you too a well. Idk what does it actually mean. Yeah you want to blame mom. 34 votes, 37 comments. ” Back then, to me me, a “bad boy” was this independent spirit who did not conform to traditional and acceptable[Caucasian] middle class roles. I’m not that person anymore but women respond to me more that way, ultimately attracting the wrong woman. Even at that age they know that 'they are only dating a younger girl because they couldn't get someone in their grade to date them'. May 8, 2020 · Relationship experts explain why women find bad boys so attractive even when they know the relationships could be bad for them. "Bad boys" are historically just cool and/or interesting guys who girls/women think need fixing. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. It struck me as weird how quickly she alread had a relationship "strong enough" for them to move in together, only to find out she had been texting him and sneaking out for a while at that point. Whether they're actually bad or not isn't really dependent on the term. The hottest wives that I know are married to the good , responsible, respectful type of guys ( not bad boys) . It’s entirely inside your head. Women want to date a 'bad boy' because they have this erroneous belief that they can "change" him, whereas a 'player' will most likely be too set in his ways. Im talking always trying to get my attention. Are you a repeat offender? If you find you're always dating a guy who makes you feel paranoid, insecure or just plain bad, it might be time to take an honest look within. They were great for getting some good meals at restaurants I couldn’t afford at the time though and I got nice things but I couldn’t do it for long because I thought they were weird for dating a 20something and being so desperate. Fam you gotta chill the fuck out, you’ve responded to every single comment on this post with the exact same thing. This can be because of many reasons however sometimes the “bad boys” come off as having options and the cool confident vibe they give off attracts women. Criminality to afford said drugs was everyone's avocation. He might say that he’ll call or go out with you, but when the time comes, he flakes. Additionally, if a female friend complains to you about their "bad boy" boyfriend, they're probably only ever mentioning the bad to you and never the good. You are a respectable person for letting go of such an enticing opportunity because you thought you did the right thing. Going on dates makes me feel bad because I'm always the one who turns them down, and I can tell they're so happy to be out with me. I like my dudes to have a bit of spice about them, but the closest I ever came to a bad boy was an ex bikie who was on the straight and narrow, lol. Popular. I've known him for years as his family and my family are close. I know, tried once never will do it again. 1# is you pick somone who is out of your league and will unlikely choose to date you. Men date younger (in general), women date older (in general). Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. I think by "mama‘s boy" they don’t mean how close the relationship is but how independent they are and whether they let a woman (a. Carly already knew Griffin and that he was obsessed with PeeWee babies 6 episodes earlier. I do as well Because as a Trans Women, you might expect us to have better luck, but we don't Personally I struggle to find anyone as most boys just find me ugly or hideous or don't want to date me because I don't have the curviest of curves and the biggest of assets (especially since my high school has a homophobic and transphobic problem "When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. Even if the accusations are unfounded, the potential for your career to be ruined is quite high. Umm that bad boy has to be attractive in the first place A bad boy who's ugly isn't going to get any notice. . because we are in that moment. Unlike for hookups guys do have standards for settling. If every type of man exist, than that means this type of man exist. One is starting a new chapter in their life and the other is still continuing their current chapter. " There are definitely some bisexual and closeted guys that fit the description. That's my best advice from a former teenage girl who fell into this "bad boy trap". There are three questions here: 1) is a two year gap okay? Sure. I would never, ever date someone in the workplace. Way better her doing this now at 15 than at 32. 63 votes, 44 comments. I am widowed and still tentative about the whole dating thing. Nah, I do great in dating. There are seemingly very nice guys who end up controlling dick-heads, and "bad boys" who are really just absolute golden retrievers, the point is in how they're perceived. Maybe you even thought he was “cool” for talking street. There are a lot of different reasons. You've heard it all before, "nice guys finish last", "girls prefer bad boys", "you'll attract more women if you treat them badly". He fails to follow through. a. I know guys who are "geeky" but a fucking heartbreaker who cheats on my friends or doing something that makes him earn the "bad boy" or some sort of. It's just not an accurate or reasonable way to approach it. However, in “iDate a Bad Boy” S2E38, Carly and Spencer act as if they have never met Griffin and he says his family just moved onto the fourth floor of their apartment. (You really, really don't need to jump into bed with everyone you go out with, folks). In the mean time have conversations about things she likes or nice things that tou know hell disagree with. Almost annoyingly so. Do not post content that promotes hate based on identity or vulnerability. Why we aren’t together is because we want to keep our connection for another ten years. Took a while but this is what eventually ruined our friendships. But "bad boys" come in all sorts of flavors. Straight up. In part, guys like me don't look anymore because woman have their pick of guys and most woman pick the fun fuckboy over the boring consistent stable guy so those guys heave realized they're only winning when they don't shoot their shot. Take it from me, someone who has (and still does) have a thing for men with tattoos and motorcycles. 1. So, it's a confidence thing. I’ve met guys who look like bad boys and are bad boys. Honestly from what I saw the women who chased bad boy types were: wealthy women who had cash and wanted to rebel against their parents, a few dumb ones, and a few overly sheltered ones. I don't know if I'd consider myself a "bad boy", but the girl I'm currently dating is definitely a goody goody. Like I said people may not understand that the two year age gap makes a difference when it comes to a 17 year old and a 19 year old. Those things yes, but there are more important issues. Bad boys are great. I like this articles explaination of this phenomenon. Women like honest boys. In this, I hoped to figure out what they're doing well, so nice guys can make changes to be more attractive by adopting the attractive traits while discarding the bad. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. We are told that the bad boys will be good just for us, they just need the right girl! I’m sick of hearing that I’m a nice guy but I refuse to treat women badly (treat ‘em mean keep ‘em keen) to capture and keep their attention. Both are in 9th grade. What I’ve seen often is the so called “nice guy” is in fact a narcissistic jerk , and the “bad boy” is the one with a heart of gold. But we have never given each other up. There's lots of well-adjusted kids that didn't start dating until college because they didn't meet anyone they liked that much when they were younger. Even when dating now, I tend to avoid online dating and would rather get to know someone in a group setting first, especially among friends. I have personal experience with being on the "bad guy" end of all this and I can't say that I have had many issues attracting women. Because bad boys are able to project that they are fine whether or not they get the girl. It is a guy who isn't part of the set of expectations the adults in her life would want ( treats people well, treats her well, is managing his life well, etc ). Promiscuity was the norm, not the exception. From movies, TV shows, ads, stories told around cocktails: It literally surrounds me almost daily. While I thought he and Carly's romantic build being kept off-screen was a tad annoying, I was far more annoyed with the Pee-Wee Babies stuff. How would Japanese culture view a girl from a respected family dating a criminal boy? I was inspired to ask this question by the characters Kagami and Felix in the French cartoon Miraculous: Tales of Ladybug and Cat Noir, whose sudden romance apparently offended many Japanese fans. Similarly, men who allow their close friends and family to disrespect you will often eventually feel entitled to disrespect you themselves. I get that you’re bothered 2 actors consented to kissing onscreen (I don’t think it’s illegal for a 15 year old to kiss a 22 year old but I could be wrong), but you don’t need to comment it on every single comment here. Here are 10 signs you’ve hooked a bad boy before it’s too late. I think women mistake the "bad boy" unneedy attitude as you said as confidence when really most bad boys probably just don't give an f*ck. Please educate yourself on the subject in your spare time so you don't get hurt I dated a boy who I perceived to be a ‘bad boy’ as a bit of fun on the rebound from getting divorced. And I don’t like revealing my past indiscretions which labeled me a bad boy. Although recently she has start dating a 15 year old boy. He'll fuck it up. ^ I think the concept of a "bad boy" is something mostly for younger women who haven't finished rebelling/growing up. I have a collection of cardigans to rival Mr Rogers and was officially declared to be Grandpa Friend at 25. While you do bad boy cool things with or around her maybe. but putting unnecessary pressure on someone just cause there single Is a pretty bad move. Yeah when people think of "bad boys" they get the image of a dude on a motorcycle with a leather jacket selling weed to kids. just look at all the grown women picking obviously terrible men and making bad decisions in their relationships with them. The vast majority of men also isnt intentionally deceitful, we just get horny and naturally act more interested in that state. Had a similar situation, man. “We’re attracted to qualities in others that we ourselves wish we had,” says sociologist and clinical sexologist Sarah Melancon, Ph. I'm a 21 year old female, currently studying in university and stuck between 2 options of boys to date. My best friend, who is going into her sophomore year with me, is currently dating a up-and-coming senior. listen if you feel like you are ready for a relationship then by all means go for it. posts about relationships longer than 6 months post go to r/relationship_advice or if you are married post to r/marriage One thing I have learned [compete and utter anecdotal evidence to follow] in my history of dating both "mama's boys" and normal, socially adjusted guys is this: BEING A MAMA'S BOY IS A TWO WAY STREET. Tl;Dr if he's dating you you're probably a dope chick so don't worry bout it ^ . He might even be straightforward In the way he shows his attraction to you. Every single friend I ever had growing up was a bad boy, or girl. He wasn’t necessarily a bad boy but he definitely had a straightforward flair to him. D. It’s the good guys in my experience that end up getting and marrying the hot chicks in the end. “Bad boys” don’t care what people think, they don’t care about consequences “because they won’t get caught”. Aug 5, 2016 · The bad boy. Keep it subtle. Hi there Reddit! I apologize for the throwaway, but my daughter might recognize my normal account. People mistake “not giving two fucks” for “confidence”. Or maybe it was true love. To call this kid a pedophile because he’s a teenage boy interested in a girl that goes to his school is just awful. He’s self-absorbed, does stupid things, and fucks with others’ emotions. Try to imagine it from the perspective of the boy’s parents. A safe space for GSRM (Gender, Sexual, and Romantic Minority) folk to discuss their lives, issues, interests, and passions. Ride a Japanese bike bc you can't afford a Harley. As an 18 year old freshman, a professor older than my parents got a little "obsessed" with me and started singling me out for "special attention. Since it's rude to ask a woman their age, there is no way for me to safely find out, and so I just avoid asking women out in general, leaving me lonely. Mama’s boy that may be the most difficult to date of all - if the childhood trauma they experienced wasn’t addressed and dealt with properly, they could take out their issues on their partner. You know who you are, what you want, and what you gotta do to get it. We can't trust men to tell us who the "bad boys" are and arent and in many cases the guys calling everyone "bad boys" are bad themselves. Good God. It's over simplified, it will get you no where. Where as 16 year old might want to hangout in their friends parents basement or possibly do “bad teenager things”. Do your best to encourage her to discover her self worth. And some of them (many) were truly bad. This is generally untrue in both instances, but you can't control what some women believe. Being a bad boy is cranking up your masculinity by 110 percent and staying in that hypermasculine state while reaping the benefits and drawbacks (we’ll talk about those later). Of course what you're thinking of is having sex, not going on a date. o woman dating 18 y. bad boy's bad traits aren't relevant in the context of a romantic or sexual relationship bad boy is with a bad girl girl has poor judgment girl hasn't realized yet he's a bad boy girl has low self esteem and doesn't think she deserves better girl finds the danger/instability exciting bad boy helps with a rebellious phase dating bad boy gets Yes because putting pressure on people is totally not terrible at all. Definitely a tongue-in-cheek reaction. For example the person I was dating was a university/college I was in high school. I think doing harmless "bad" things like calling out peoples bs without fear of confrontation or playfully teasing others is just pretty universaly percieved as attractive because it proves the qualities mentioned above by action. Follow reddit rules. 382 votes, 815 comments. I’m speaking from personal experience being in a two+ year relationship with a guy whose mom became disabled from rheumatoid arthritis, was AskWomen: A subreddit dedicated to asking women questions about their thoughts, lives, and experiences; providing a place where all women can comfortably and candidly share their responses in a non-judgmental space. We invite users to post interesting questions about the UK that create informative, good to read, insightful, helpful, or light-hearted discussions. Reddit, please help me. Men with MRA and incel-like beliefs tend to be abusive towards women and narratives like "only the bad boys get the girls" are incel/MRA narratives. But do not marry them. Here’s the way to sum up women like this… you could be 6’4, absolutely shredded from the gym, have a half sleeve of tats, be a millionaire, have an 8 inch dick, smash them 3 times a day giving them multiple orgasms, pay for all there shit, give them 2-3 great kids, be there emotionally, etc I’m assuming there more from there lists. Mainly because drama at 16 is hella different than drama at 20 and I'm not tryna deal with the type of drama 16 yr olds. Drugs was the #1 hobby. For me, especially when I was still young and in college — when the dating world was wide open — a “bad boy” was someone who did not fit into what society considered to be a “good boy. Do not bully or harass other users. We understand each other like no other and still after a decade have that intense chemistry. Check "Community Info" in the top right corner if you're using the app, or use the old version of reddit by typing "old" in place of "www" into the URL and look at the top of the sidebar if you're on desktop. He doesn't want to admit that he enjoys the support, opinions, gossip, justifications. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. o guys is so statistically unusual, that it weirds people out. (I’m a “good girl”currently being pursued by an obviously “bad” boy) He’s always flirting and going out of his way to get a rise out of me whenever he sees me. 2) is a two year gap with two minors okay? Ehhhhhh, way less okay, but only in the sense that all minor dating is a trainwreck derailing into the mosh pit of the shit show. Liking bad boys also stems from societal grooming. LGBTQ+ are welcome :) We also have a Discord server. Hi y’all, i’ll make this very brief me quick, i got to know this girl recently, 4 years younger than me, i’m (M29) and we immediately clicked, we hangout a lot, took things slowly i didn’t want to jump stages cause we were working together but there were a lot of signs we were liking each other’s, we flirted, called each other’s daily, kissed a couple of times but didn’t really We have our party boys, playboys, druggies, and so on, but I don't think I've ever met a cliché gay "bad boy. Though most girls think they can change a guy which is fucking bullshit. i’m 20 now and we’re still together, so hey, it can work! just make sure you feel you’re both equals in the relationship, and honestly with that size of a gap (nit big but for our age, decent) i’d be letting the younger one call the shots You can't. Being a bad boy is more attitude than anything else. Confidence, honesty, courage, non-conformity etc This is not just for bad boys but bad girls too. Chatting with a guy and mention that I have tattoos. We would like to show you a description here but the site won’t allow us. Reddit's idea of bad boy might fall short of the mark. Reddit has drilled into my head that if an if an 18 year old dates someone under 18, then they are a creep. You could try and be a "bad boy" and find your superficial acting gets you zip. Socially distanced dating is weird and wild. I 19M recently got into dating and is talking with a girl for a few weeks. He vapes, dibbles with weed, explored sex already, calls her girlfriends the b-word, and is often in detention. 30 y. Even if we don't have chemistry they'll still want to see me again. xdjilz armpfwv dek ofonwt cgbv tuh krnzh cpumwd dslzw cevafv avi kil xbegm egrhya lvihl